Whether you're sending on-site emails or SMS messages a few simple rules go a long way.

First, is your profile complete? 99.99% of the time female members do not respond to male members who have not added a picture (with their face in it) and filled out their profile info.

Next, you need to have realistic expectations about how online dating works.

Male members send about 100 times more messages to female members than the other way around! Male members sending WELL-WRITTEN messages generally get one reply to every 20 to 50 messages they send!

Finally, is your message WELL-WRITTEN? Women get copy/paste emails all day long. Take the time to personalize your message to the person you're sending it to. The basic information can be the same but put something in there to show her you actually took the time to read her profile. Women like that!

One final note on SMS: obviously it is more immediate and tougher to write a long message. But always start off with introducing yourself! "Hey, this is <yourusername> from <site>! I saw your profile..." What do you think a female would think if she got a text from some guy she doesn't know with "Nice Boobs"?

Add some pictures. NOT just pictures of your private parts but pictures of your face.

Fill out all your profile info HONESTLY. It's fine to play up your strengths but if you set off peoples B.S. alarms they're not going to contact you.

Add some videos. Add people to your Friends Network. The more friends you have the more likely someone will feel comfortable hitting you up.

Play the Quickie game (link is in the top navigation). It's a quick and easy way to let people know you're interested and vice versa.

Upgrade your membership. The higher your membership level, the higher you show up in search results.

When I use the Member Tweets who can see my Tweets?

Simple: when male members send a tweet, all female members see it. When a female member sends a tweet, all male members see it.

How do I block someone from viewing my profile / contacting me?

We've got a lot of options to help you block unwanted attention.

In your on-site inbox, if you get a message from someone you don't want to hear from again, simply click the Block User button:



If you don't want to hear from a particular type of member, you can click on Account Settings at the top of the page and then click the Set My Global Blocking link.

Also on the Account Settings page you can also control your Friends Network Privacy.

Finally, if you want to take a break and hide your profile from everyone you can do that in the Profile Visibility section of Account Settings.

When you get an on-site message from a scammer simply click the link at the bottom that says "Click Here to Report this message as Site Abuse/Scam".